In this 10 part series, we explore the Ten Components (ten behaviours) of The Thinking Environment® (Nancy Kline), and how understanding and practicing these behaviours has positively impacted my relationships and interactions with others.
Principle: “Even in a hierarchy people can be equal as thinkers.”
Giving someone your authentic attention when they talk is not only a sign of respect which enhances a feeling of value in the speaker, it is also where a sense of equality is borne.
Our connected, competitive world relies on us saying more and pushing the self-promotion envelope to be heard. This results in a loss of the ability to respect that others also have a right to be heard.
I am constantly trying to improve my own mindfulness – in the context of being aware of my impact on others through being present in each moment. Being a managing director and head of many staff meeting forums with divisions and staff, kept me on my toes with my own awareness and behaviour regarding this Component. I didn’t think of it as ‘equal’ then, but rather as respecting each person individually and letting them know it. Of course, this is equality, and through practising this individual respect in staff meetings where there are hierarchies, I have found the most impact and reward with junior staff. Feeling heard makes them feel they matter and what they say and think contributes to a bigger picture, of which they are a part of and not just working for. This is the differentiator – it is inclusive. The knock on benefit is a staff culture of engaged and committed workers, who now have a personal stake for taking initiative and thinking outside their own box, by coming up with ideas and proactively thinking about scenarios – not only do they learn and grow, but the company takes an interest in their thought process and perspective.
This is an imperative leadership skill. Leaders that are successful create resonance with followers by their own behaviour self-management and awareness, and managing relations with others.
Practicing and managing equality removes ego from a group and promotes impartiality. When this is present, a feeling of threat or negativity is removed from individuals, so their attention can be truly focused on the discussion at hand.
As we go through all Ten Components (behaviours), you will see how they all work hand-in-hand with each other, yet each one is so powerful on its own. PocketAdvisor helps you navigate the complex world of relationships, enrol for one of our Programs today!