In this 10 part series, we explore the Ten Components (ten behaviours) of The Thinking Environment® (Nancy Kline), and how understanding and practicing these behaviours has positively impacted my relationships and interactions with others.
Principle: “Removing assumptions that limit our ability to think for ourselves clearly and creatively.”
Individual perspectives are an incomplete version of reality, so when someone notices our limiting assumptions and points it out to us in a way that questions the assumption in the first place – we are compelled to think about it, free from the assumption mental block. In this way we are “freeing the mind to think afresh”.
I have noticed that when my limiting assumptions are questioned, I am stumped for a few seconds as this presents a new thought path and I am not quite sure what to do with it without my safety blanket of excuses. Then the magic happens, and new thought processes are ignited.
My executive coaching training, learning how to ask incisive questions really taught me how to listen properly to others. To be able to identify the core issues and guide the client to the necessary conclusion, I needed to listen – with attention. It is an awareness that has shifted the way I approach coaching or advisory interactions. This doesn’t mean I have mastered always listen with full attention, but when I catch myself not being mindful I refocus and step back into this way of being more naturally now.
Incisive questioning shows the power that multi-perspectives have. Seeing situations from other worldviews broadens the accuracy of our interpretation of reality. The value of this as a self-awareness and personal growth tool is huge.
It is only through being shown another thought path by removing limiting assumptions that we get the opportunity to reflect and adapt to a new way of thinking and thus, being.
As we go through all Ten Components (behaviours), you will see how they all work hand-in-hand with each other, yet each one is so powerful on its own. PocketAdvisor helps you navigate the complex world of relationships, enrol for one of our Programs today!